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Thoughts On Valentines Day – And An Invitation To A Free, Live, Online Bone Throwing Ceremony

Kay Cordell Whitaker

Valentines day is coming up and I’d like to share a few thoughts about it.

Kay and I have been married for more than 20 years.

When I think about it, its like, “has it really been 22 years? It feels like we had our ceremony just yesterday.”

Having been married for 22 years is among, if not the, greatest achievements of my life.

Having been able to not just make a relationship work, but to make it passionately alive, deeply nourishing and caring, to make it a life I’d love to continue for all eternity, an adventure that still keeps growing and flourishing in it’s depth and wonder. I’m proud of that, although much of the credit goes to my wife.

We have been fortunate to work together around our passions. Our hobby is our work and our work is our life.

After all these years we still work together every day.

We live a few miles outside of town. About every other week we go to town together to do our grocery shopping. I know, pretty boring stuff for most people, right? For us it is among our most favorite activities to relax and just hang together. It’s like a ritual, a ceremony we enjoy tremendously.

When I have to go by myself because her work doesn’t allow her to leave that day, as I had to yesterday, I miss her, deeply.

I don’t like being away from my lover, my wife, my passion, my friend, even if it’s just for a few hours every other month or so.

I miss her, I miss her energy, I miss her smile, I miss her passion, I miss her excitement for life, I miss her awe and wonder and curiosity about life, I miss not being in the next room to her. I miss that.

Not in a needy, codependent way, but just as a matter of so deeply appreciating who she is, who we are together and the dance we’ve been gifted to dance together.

Valentines Day is a nice idea for us, but if you don’t live like it’s Valentines Day every day in your love relationship, if you don’t feel the deep passion and caring and appreciation for your lover and his or her love for you each and every day, I encourage you to go search for it, do whatever you can to go find it again.

Life is not worth living without deeply loving each and every day, each and every moment you spend with the people closest to you.

And if you don’t have someone in your life to love so deeply right now then love yourself, start with yourself.

You should love yourself anyway, even if you do have someone in your life.

Most importantly, I think, learn to love life, because in the end, a life not lived loving is a life not lived at all, not really.

Ok, I’m being melodramatic here. Of course every life is a life lived. And if part of your purpose in this life is to go through life not deeply loving and not connecting on that level, more power to you. It’s your sacred path and I respect that.

I’ve passionately immersed myself in both in my life, and as far as the “having a blast meter” goes, I go for living my life loving any day.

That’s one of the many, many things I’m eternally grateful to Kay for, showing me how to live life loving in a profoundly deep way.

I leave you with one of my favorite quotes; “If you want more love in your world, love more in your world.”

And, as our Valentines gift to you, we are offering a free, live, online Bone Throwing Ceremony.

The theme of the ceremony is “Walking The Spiral Path – Dreaming Your Purpose And Passions Into Being”

So if you’d like to find out how to create a purposeful, passionate life, or bring even more purpose and passion into your life, here is the link to get more details and register for the ceremony.

Love and Song,

Helmut

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Relationships

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In order for any of us to exist we need relationships. Relationships of all kinds.

It is within relationships that we find deep caring friendships that last through a whole lifetime, love for each other that sustains our hearts, bodies, minds and spirits.

Everything is about relationships.

Relationships with our own Self, our Song. Relationships between you and all else. Relationships between all things – subatomic particles, energy fields, animals, plants, lifeforms, humans.

Where something is going on – and something is always going on, nothing is ever truly stopped, dead – there is relating. Interactions.

Relationship is a fundamental of existence.

How we choose to relate to all this relating is our choice.

In nature, relating is accompanied by Unconditional Love and Unconditional Acceptance.

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The Hetakas’ Definition Of Love


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This is a chapter from Kay’s book Love Ka Ta See Style. In this chapter Kay talks about, as the title says, the Hetakas’ definition of Love.

We shared this piece some time back, but it’s still as profound and timeless as it was back then. So for this years Valentines day we’re sharing it with you again.

Enjoy!

“What is the Hetakas’ definition of love?”

Click this link to get a free copy of the book.

Okay. Our next question:

“What is the Hetakas’ definition of love? It seems a too-general question, but I do see most of us struggling with that.”

Kay: The Hetakas’ definition of love is “unconditional love”, the same as I’ve been talking about.

This is where you have genuine caring, where there is no judgment of yourself or other, where you make yourself available to be there for the other when they really need you, they really need help with something.

It means to be a best true friend, ready to care, ready to listen, ready to respect and admire, ready to help, ready to talk things through, to figure things out without judgment.

Always, always, always no judgments.

And always trying to understand – trying to put yourself in the shoes of the other.

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Safe Space Communication

In this webcast recording Kay answers the question about what to do when masks sabotage the relationship.

She talks about the importance of safe space communication and describes in great detail what that actually is, what it means to have safe space talk.

She talks about what it actually means to live with unconditional love and unconditional acceptance and how the ability to live this way disarms our mask pictures of each other and that the benefits of that are priceless because you take off the weight of the mask momentums.

And she talks about how living this way, with unconditional love and unconditional acceptance is the basis of creating deep caring friendships which last a lifetime and how such friendships are the basis of any relationship.

And last but not least, she talks about how we can learn to live this way.

Enjoy.

 

Safe Space

Use the comments options below for any thoughts, questions and comments. We will answer any question you post there.

To find out more about this way of life, click this link to a presentation about Kay’s upcoming Online Level 1 Class.

If you ever wanted to find out more about what these teachings of Ka Ta See can offer to your life, you will want to see this presentation, and if you even the least bit interested in learning more from Kay, you enjoy haven taken the time to watch.

Song to Song,

Helmut

helmut (at) katasee (dot) com

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Life Is Relationships

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Not too long ago we shared a piece called “Everyone Is Lonely – Connect!”

The main question about the piece was, yes, but how do you do that, how do you connect?

Well, I can’t speak for Kay, but for me it’s been a challenge most of my life. I’ve always been a loner of sorts and growing up I never thought I would fit in anywhere or be in a long term relationship of any kind or even have close friends.

I think the best I can say about this now is that the more you become friends with yourself, the more you get to know yourself and are able to love yourself, the easier it becomes to connect, to create heart felt, Song centered relationships.

In order for any of us to exist we need relationships. Relationships of all kinds.

It is within relationships that we find deep caring friendships that last through a whole lifetime, love for each other that sustains our hearts, bodies, minds and spirits.

Everything is about relationships.

Relationships with our own Self, our Song…
Relationships between you and all else…
Relationships between all things — subatomic particles, energy fields, animals, plants, lifeforms, humans.

Where something is going on — and something is always going on, nothing is ever truly stopped, dead — there is relating. Interactions.

Relationship is a fundamental of existence.

How we choose to relate to all this relating is our choice.

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