Valentines day is coming up and I’d like to share a few thoughts about it.
Kay and I have been married for more than 20 years.
When I think about it, its like, “has it really been 22 years? It feels like we had our ceremony just yesterday.”
Having been married for 22 years is among, if not the, greatest achievements of my life.
Having been able to not just make a relationship work, but to make it passionately alive, deeply nourishing and caring, to make it a life I’d love to continue for all eternity, an adventure that still keeps growing and flourishing in it’s depth and wonder. I’m proud of that, although much of the credit goes to my wife.
We have been fortunate to work together around our passions. Our hobby is our work and our work is our life.
After all these years we still work together every day.
We live a few miles outside of town. About every other week we go to town together to do our grocery shopping. I know, pretty boring stuff for most people, right? For us it is among our most favorite activities to relax and just hang together. It’s like a ritual, a ceremony we enjoy tremendously.
When I have to go by myself because her work doesn’t allow her to leave that day, as I had to yesterday, I miss her, deeply.
I don’t like being away from my lover, my wife, my passion, my friend, even if it’s just for a few hours every other month or so.
I miss her, I miss her energy, I miss her smile, I miss her passion, I miss her excitement for life, I miss her awe and wonder and curiosity about life, I miss not being in the next room to her. I miss that.
Not in a needy, codependent way, but just as a matter of so deeply appreciating who she is, who we are together and the dance we’ve been gifted to dance together.
Valentines Day is a nice idea for us, but if you don’t live like it’s Valentines Day every day in your love relationship, if you don’t feel the deep passion and caring and appreciation for your lover and his or her love for you each and every day, I encourage you to go search for it, do whatever you can to go find it again.
Life is not worth living without deeply loving each and every day, each and every moment you spend with the people closest to you.
And if you don’t have someone in your life to love so deeply right now then love yourself, start with yourself.
You should love yourself anyway, even if you do have someone in your life.
Most importantly, I think, learn to love life, because in the end, a life not lived loving is a life not lived at all, not really.
Ok, I’m being melodramatic here. Of course every life is a life lived. And if part of your purpose in this life is to go through life not deeply loving and not connecting on that level, more power to you. It’s your sacred path and I respect that.
I’ve passionately immersed myself in both in my life, and as far as the “having a blast meter” goes, I go for living my life loving any day.
That’s one of the many, many things I’m eternally grateful to Kay for, showing me how to live life loving in a profoundly deep way.
I leave you with one of my favorite quotes; “If you want more love in your world, love more in your world.”
And, as our Valentines gift to you, we are offering a free, live, online Bone Throwing Ceremony.
The theme of the ceremony is “Walking The Spiral Path – Dreaming Your Purpose And Passions Into Being”
So if you’d like to find out how to create a purposeful, passionate life, or bring even more purpose and passion into your life, here is the link to get more details and register for the ceremony.
Love and Song,