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Why Can’t We All Just Love Each Other?
There are many reasons. Two of the main ones, we don’t know love, unconditional love, and we don’t know each other.
Well, first, we don’t know ourselves. For the most part, we really don’t have a clue and with that we don’t have any idea who the person sitting across from us is let alone the person on the other side of the continent, or the planet.
I am a spiritual being having a human experience is usually the extent to which people express knowing themselves. Sounds spiritual, but what the heck does that even mean?
In our work we have seen people pretending to be all spiritual and loving and awake and happy but when life threw them a curveball all hell broke loose, all spiritual and loving and happy went down the drain. What was left went out the window, and all they spewed out into the world was resentment, hate even.
That’s the measure of being awake, how we handle ourselves when curveballs come our way.
Our problems don’t define us, how we handle ourselves in the midst of our problems is how we define ourselves.
Does our entire being shift to the mask’s behavior of judgement, resentment, fear, anger and hate, which still lie buried underneath the happy and loving veneer or have we really done our homework, our mask work, and cleaned out our basement of all our mask dynamics?
Do we know our true essence, our true being and are able to stand in it’s center no matter what comes our way?
Or is our knowledge of ourselves built on sand and blown away in whichever psychic wind storms by.
And it’s not just curveballs. Sometimes all it takes to get us going and get our mask jabber up and running is just something annoying showing up on the TV, or on the internet, or from our neighbors, or even our friends.
Really what it boils down to is we don’t love ourselves. In fact we judge ourselves sometimes so fiercely it’s a wonder we manage to continue to live with ourselves.
I want you to do something next time you’re in your bathroom in front of the mirror. I find this exercise most effective when done scantly gladded, like in underwear, or even naked.
Look carefully at yourself, all of it, head to toe, or as far as your mirror allows you to see, all your glory.
Now, take mental, or actual notes of what you are thinking and feeling. No pretend, no make believe, no fake, take note of what the real thoughts and feelings are that come up.
I love myself, I love who I am, I love my body, I love what I have accomplished, I’m beautiful, I love my life, I love everything about myself unequivocally without reservation! Can you actually feel how exciting it is to be inside this body, in this time, right here right now, without hesitations or doubts?
Or are they:
I’m too short, I’m too tall. I’m too fat. I’m too thin. My boobs are to small, or too big. I’m too young, I’m too old. I’m ugly, I’m not worthy. I haven’t accomplished anything. nobody loves me, I’m all alone, nobody understands me, or any variation of these things on and on and on?
As a side, all the things we think and feel about and say to ourselves in front of that mirror, we usually think and feel and say about others. Sometimes we are aware of what we’re doing, most of the time we’re not. And usually we have very little conscious awareness of how these things effect ourselves and others.
We consider ourselves the most evolved species on the planet yet we are the most destructive to ourselves, to each other, to the environment.
And it’s all because we have no clue as to who we are and because of the inability to love ourselves or each other that comes with that cluelessnes.
“You see, a people who knows their Song has no use for starting war. But a people who live without their Song in their life, live in self importance and fear, separated from all things. Trapped in a broken world. Our elders used to say that those people ‘live in death’, because to them life is a brutal war.”
— Domano Hetaka – Sacred Link
We have a simple ceremony. We have written about it before. But because of its seeming simplicity its power, which is considerable, eludes most people, at first.
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“Learn your Song. Learn your masks. Refuse to take part in these broken webs and they pass into death of their own weight. Hold to your center and dance on your Song instead. It is the only way you can stay alive.”
— Domano Hetaka – Sacred Link
Learn your Song, learn your center and you will change your life and with it you will change the world.
If you have the opportunity to build such an altar and do the Ceremony of Finding Your Song inside that altar space, that would be great. But, this particular ceremony is an exception of sorts, it’s ok to do this ceremony without building the altar space.
Most importantly, enjoy … and repeat the ceremony as often as you possibly can.
Love and Song,